Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse & Why it actually is a Spiritual War for your very Soul. 🦋

✨ As someone who has at one point or another experienced Narcissistic abuse of all types, I feel passionate about larger exposure on this topic as well as equipping survivors with the tools to assist with healing and knowledge to protect oneself from further abuse.

This is a subject that is often misunderstood and even overused to label people & situations as narcissistic in order to avoid self responsibility & accountability. However, the truth of the matter is, we can all act narcissistically at times but that does not mean we are actually narcissists. ✨

👉🏻 What is narcissism?

According to a world renowned author, healer and narcissistic abuse recovery expert Melanie Tonia Evans, this is what the ultimate definition of this personality disorder is:

‘’ Narcissism is known to be a construction of a false self, and therefore the individual will exhibit behaviour that is pathological (not real) in nature. I believe any individual who is not comfortable within their own skin - therefore disconnected from their 'inner peace' - can develop narcissistic characteristics.

Narcissism is not a mental condition. It's a spiritual / emotional condition.’’

In other words, Narcissism is a state of self that is completely disconnected from the Self, it has no conscience or empathy, those can only be acted out and put on a mask in order to gain narcissistic supply - in simple terms - your energy and life force. Narcissism is a state of parasitic absence of self generating power which is mined wholly from outside sources.

Narcissists literally have no connection to their soul/life force as they disconnect from it in early foundational years, and to live they have to siphon it from outside. There is no other way for them to survive.

Perhaps that sounds like a description from a horror movie where vampires have to drink their victims blood in order to exist, and they wither away if this is denied. That is exactly what I want you to envisage when you think of what a narcissistic personality disorder is.

👉🏻 How you can identify if someone you know is a narcissist:

Truthfully? You can’t. Because to be officially diagnosed a person would need to be thoroughly assessed by medical professionals. However most narcissists are never going to look for a medical diagnosis unless there is a form of gratification or reward involved.

But what we can do is to get to know identifying traits and signs, and most importantly trust our intuition.

These are some of the most common signs and traits that are displayed by someone who is a potential narcissist:

1. They are never wrong. And it is ALWAYS someone else’s fault. In a nutshell, narcissists aren’t accountable and never will be. And any attempt to bring accountability will only generate narcissistic rage and no tolerance for any kind of criticism.

2. Narcissists are incapable of genuine and real love and connection, any appearance of these are simply to garner more attention, sympathy, energy and to project their own pain onto their victim. No amount of ‘help’ is enough, they are a bottomless barrel of vampirism.

3. If attention is taken away from a Narcissist, they become sullen, nasty, depressed and full of rage. It is one of the first warning signs that a narcissist will display if their supply suddenly dwindles. They demand attention 24/7 and any healthy person will recognise that as a sign of sickness not affection.

4. Narcissists do not have boundaries. Please know what a boundary has nothing to do with someone else ‘getting it’. A boundary is one that is born from within and the only person that needs to get it is yourself. If someone disrespects our wishes and we continue to allow this, the issue isn’t them disrespecting us, the issue is that we are disrespecting ourselves by allowing it. We have to embody the boundary and be willing to lose it all to get it all, if an unhealthy individual is targeting our own deficient boundaries. Believe me I know only too well from my own experience with that until I myself realised it is my own responsibility to protect and honour my own self, toxic individuals would continue to trample over my requests and wishes.

5. Narcissists are the ultimate Bullies. Do not for a moment imagine that the narcissist cares about your feelings or needs, if love bombing tactic fails to generate the desired effect, they will resort to all types of tactics to mine your energy & life force.

‘The narcissist needs attention and significance (known as Narcissistic Supply) to avoid the pain, and to gain some relief, just like a heroin addict does. A narcissist will do whatever it takes without conscience or remorse to keep feeding the False Self.’ (Melanie Tonia Evans)

While the above points only scratch the surface of these identifying traits, there is something a lot more important that needs to be addressed.

✨ What can you do? ✨

Before I answer, I want you to imagine that you walk into a room where there is someone with an incurable, highly deadly and infectious disease that can only survive by feeding off fresh blood.

Do you think you can reason with this ‘disease’ or ‘talk it out’ of acting the way it is designed to be? Of course not.

So, can you help a narcissist?

👉🏻 The short answer is NO. All you will feel is a heightened sense of anxiety, feeling of being powerless and controlled, as well as utterly drained.

Because you literally are being drained of life force, as these people have none of their own.

👉🏻 How can you heal after Narcissistic Abuse?

Once you have walked away from the narcissist and their drama, which is absolutely essential, your focus should now shift to healing those parts of yourself that made you vulnerable to be abused in the first place.

Let’s face it, our unhealed traumas that we either acquired as children or inherited genetically, is what keeps us enmeshed and drawn to toxic individuals that represent the unresolved subconscious issues our inner child is attempting to address.

As co-dependents we have not yet learned how to self soothe or heal, or how to become a source to ourselves which would leave us impervious to narcissistic individuals unable to tolerate or allow your attention to go elsewhere.

As children we absolutely had no choice or power over how an abusive adult was treating us, but as adults we have the responsibility to heal ourselves and to protect ourselves. If that means turning to conventional therapy as well as spiritual/energetic somatic body healing, then it is our obligation to do so. No one else can do it for us, nor is it their responsibility.

✨ How can you protect yourself? 👇🏻

There is only one solution and that is what one would do with any parasitic organism. Complete removal and then healing oneself.

There is no saving the narcissist from themselves, and if you believe you can or should then most likely you are suffering from what is known as Stockholm syndrome.

Leaving the narcissist and healing from a narcissist is the only way to ever experience real connection, love and peace.

Becoming free of a narcissist and focusing on turning inwards is the ultimate solution to become ‘parasite’ and ‘vampire’ free, to regain your life force, energy and well being.

There is no other way. Period.

🦋 In 2017 I reached a point where I had to make a choice to save my own sanity and choose myself, if I didn’t I probably would not be around now. As a disclaimer, I am not a mental health professional, and I have myself turned to medical professionals for help and assistance, which is absolutely imperative for anyone struggling with mental health or abusive relationships/situations.

However, what I can do is recommend some source materials that has helped not only myself but thousands of people to find a path to recovery after Narcissistic Abuse which I will link below. 👇🏻

Https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/.../narcissism...

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com

You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse: The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships https://amzn.eu/d/40eCl16

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